Why Guys Think Natural Hair is So Sexy

You are sexy! And no, not from the forehead down ;-).  Your natural hair is sexy! Of course, YOU think so, but what do guys think? I hit the streets and got some opinions on why guys think that your natural hair makes you so foxy-fine!

Natural hair is so refreshing in a world of synthetic women.... Also it's just sexy….I guess to a measure it is an expression of confidence and freedom that is sexy.   Jamaal P., 27

I like natural hair because it's fluffy, but also because it seems more honest to me. I feel like permed hair is an attempt to make your hair seem like something it's not. Basically, it's deceit.

I also think that it's harder to maintain natural hair so I generally assume that the lady is a hard worker, which is attractive to me. I see her as someone can hold her own whenever she decides to. A woman with permed hair is makes me think of regular trips to the salon. She's like another bill. If she doesn't have the patience or dedication to take care of her own hair, how will she be with me? A relationship can't be solved with a 6 week touch up. The same applies for women with dreads. Paul M., 21

Really love it that she can switch her style up from long to a bun to curls. Sexy.  Vincent E., 29

I like it because I can run my hands through it without worry. I mean I do know there are times when you can’t but there are times when you most definitely can :-). Besides there is nothing more attractive then a black women who is proud of her hair and let's it show regardless of what society may say or think. Doran A., 25

I do think it's sexy because it is the way God made black women. Not saying those who have relaxed hair are not beautiful but there is something more special about a young woman who has a natural hair style.

It takes a little more effort to manage that hairstyle and it gives an exotic look. In my opinion it shows that she cares about her self and the way she looks.

Adrian R.,25

It’s authentic

It’s real

There is no guess work

You can touch it

You can walk in the rain

So as practical as those reasons are, they are very sexy.

Corey D., 25

Yes! I love natural hair on women. Afros, locs, curls, the whole gambit! There's something so... reassuring about a woman comfortable with her natural texture. Not to say that women with artificial hair are insecure, but women with natural hair have a different demeanor (I intentionally didn't say "swagg" *vomits* lol) about them that I personally enjoy. I know natural styles are a lot of work, but a well kept natural look goes a long way! Daveechi S., 24

I think natural hair is very sexy......I think it is because it shows you and who you are (not behind a mask) it gives you a chance to showcase who you are as a person. Darian H.,

I think it shows the natural beauty of a woman. It tells me that that woman is sexy in her own skin (hair) and knows how to work it. It works well with how a woman looks. :-) Henry C.,23

I like the Afro form of natural hair because it reminds me of the Retro classy look. Wayne D., 21

1) It’s easier to grab, 2) You don’t have to worry about her crying due to humidity or rain 3) You have a lesser chance of finding out and being disappointed later by a weave 4) You won’t have to come out of pocket with $200+ monthly for maintenance work. Dontae S., 22

Ya see? And there are millions more reasons that I’m sure you’ve heard, or just know!  Of course, confidence in your beauty starts with you, but it doesn’t hurt to know that some cute guys are behind you! 

Stank Stylists: What Has My Hair Ever Done to You??

Isn’t it funny how people think that just because they are professionals in an area that anything that they can’t figure out is your fault, not theirs? I’ve gotten into countless arguments with some of the smartest idiots I know who can’t stand be stumped and will grasp for any reasons to explain the paradox except for their own ignorance. Ugh. I’m itching just thinking about it.

                Mr. Andre Walker and other Hollywood styling geniuses like him think that my hair is “limited”.   Said Walker in an interview with Elle,

“I always recommend embracing your natural texture. Kinky hair can have limited styling options; that’s the only hair type that I suggest altering with professional relaxing”.  

Really Mr. Walker, supposed pioneer of hair acceptance?!  Founder of the curl scale that many naturals use today??  Oh no sir, we don’t take too kindly to that at all. When Walker saw the negative responses that he was getting from the kinky hair sisters, he resorted to his blog to respond and apologize….kinda…

“So when I say to embrace your natural texture, but consider relaxing kinky hair, am I contradicting myself? I don’t think so! You see, even relaxed hair can still be worn naturally. If you want a natural look, but find that your kinky hair is difficult to manage, breaks too easily, lacks shine and luster, and limits your preferred styling options, I say feel free to consider a mild chemical relaxer, sometimes called a texturizer, that eases your hair to a more manageable texture and allows you to Make Peace With Your Hair.”

Really Andre? For a visionary, you sure sound like everybody else.

                And a less surprising but still disappointing quote comes from Sean Cameron, one of the members of the cast of Beverly Hills Fabulous. Sean, a bleached-blonde Black man from St. Louis, MO, exclaimed while servicing a client with big, beautiful, curly hair,

“You hear that America? Don’t call me if you gotta whole bunch of natural hair ‘cause I ain’t interested!”

He blames his attitude on his new assistant in his confession, yet still refers to his client as having “big ole natural hair like a Sasquatch”. He continues to whine throughout the session, calling it a “monster”, something he “does not like to do” and “not his forte”. He grunts, whines, and throws so much of a fit that if you close your eyes he would sound like a deep-voiced six-year old. Now to me, this seems like a personal problem. Or, to be more frank, NOT MY HAIR’S FAULT.

                To my discriminating stylists out there, if you cannot deal with my kinks, YOU need to improve your skillset. The fact that you cannot do my hair is not my hair’s fault and therefore is not my problem. The problem is your ignorance on the subject, not the subject. And if natural hair is not something that you know how to do, refer me to someone who CAN do it. But don’t insult the kinks. They are innocent. Oh, and don’t try to convince me that natural hair is healthier when it’s straight. My ancient ancestors wore their kinky hair proudly for years, and I’m pretty sure they weren’t all just waiting around for someone to invent the hot comb.

                Just like many kinky and curly haired girls today, many stylists have been brainwashed into thinking that the old way of doing things is the only way of doing things, and that any deviation is wrong. Many Black stylists with these views faced the same discrimination that we do (well not so much for these two because they are men). What’s my point? These people are damaged too, and just as scared of their kinks as you once were. The only difference is that they consider themselves the authority, but you are smarter than that. So continue to stick with the stylist that gets you, or stay the beautiful and innovative kitchen beautician that you are. Hollywood will catch up. J

How Make Your Natural Hair Look Good in a Driver's License Picture

(This is a picture of MY driver's license. I didn't think that it was too impressive :))

This is pretty easy when you have relaxed hair. You can just kind of do what everybody else is doing…add extensions, straighten out the new growth, and maybe bump the ends a few times. But what about when you’re rocking kinks and curls? NOW WHAT? I ran into this very problem while waiting to take my driver’s license picture (I was getting my license renewed) and failed at the solution miserably. But don’t worry! Read this article and you can learn what not to do the easy way…instead of making the mistakes I did and having to wait another several years before you can take another pic. L

The difference between other pictures and driver’s license pictures is that it is straight forward, from the neck up and normally taken by someone who hates their job and therefore could care less how your picture turns out. So here’s what to focus on.

Silhouette

We naturalistas love putting bumps and lumps and rolls in our hair and while they really do look awesome and exotic, how will all these lumps and bumps look in bad lighting? Will you look like you’re growing a horn? Extra ears? Consider a style that is simple and pretty without a lot of complicated components, like a wash-n-go, a puff, or a sleek bun. These styles are easy, congruent (lol) and look pretty too!

Face Shape

I love experimenting with my hair as much as the next girl, but in special events (like lifelong driver’s license pictures) go with what you know looks good on you.  And normally, what looks good on you looks good because it complements your face shape. Take into account also your eyes, makeup, and bone structure when choosing a style that best suits you. Oval faces may look better with their hair pulled back, while rounder faces can carry off a larger afro without being lost in all the hair. Choose what works best for you!

Shine and Frizziness

I know, I know, you will not get the same shine from natural hair that you would get from straight hair, but that doesn’t mean that your hair can’t look healthy and moisturized. Using oil sheen and moisturizing your hair well on the day of your picture can make a huge difference in frizziness and shine. Also, go for uniformity. If you’re going for a fro, make sure that all parts of your hair looks like a fro. If you’re going for defined curls, make sure that you define every curl. We’re going for congruency, remember?

Product Overload

Too many products in your hair can be bad news for your face. Even if your make-up is flawless a halo made of oil doesn’t look good in pictures! Make sure that your hair is clean and moisturized, but not over loaded. And make sure that the products you do have are completely dry in your hair BEFORE your picture. A drop of water in your hair in person may look like a glob of product in your hair in a picture! A blow dryer is very handy for situations like these.

So take these tips with you the next time you have to renew your license. Or get your license for the first time. Or to take your picture for your permit. Or school picture. Or anytime you want! And of course, SMILE!